The 11 Laws of Likability | Michelle Tillis Lederman


Lederman introduces likability by posing the “tried and true” question, “Who doesn’t want to be liked?” In some manner, in some fashion or way, we all want to be liked at some point or another. Michelle provides an insightful and practical take on being authentic to build positive self knowledge of one’s self; and the attitudes and social skills that help you understand and relate to others. Although, many of the supporting facts for the 11 Laws are common sense, we all could use a little reinforcement from time to time. Through the 11 Laws of Likability you learn the importance of being likable (not liked), liking yourself, and liking the people we meet. The biggest takeaway I shall forever remember is that “the world is a mirror.” So what do you see?


Pamper Me Time


After a busy weekend of priming & painting, and having a full week ahead of me, I decided to take some time last night to take care of myself. What I often call “My In-Home Spa Night.” I try to do this once a week, but lately with a hectic work schedule and still getting situated in my new home, I haven’t had the time. My manicure from the week before was completely ruined. And that’s no way to start a new work week.

1. Before anything begins, I cleaned my face.
2. While my face air dried, I removed the paint coated polish from my fingernails. Remember I mentioned I’d been painting and priming all weekend. No way I was going to work with primer coated nail polish.
3. I applied a clarifying clay mask to my face. It stayed on for 15 minutes. (5 minutes longer than I usually prefer).
4. While the mask was on, I did a quick cuticle cleanup and buff on my fingernails. I then applied the base coat.
5. By this time, the mask had dried on my face and was ready to be washed off. Anytime I wash my face, I use a new, wet paper towel to cleanse. Wrapped up by applying a blemish control toner and moisturizer. Viola! a refreshed, re energized face.


6. Next, I prepped by foot bath with warm water and baby oil. I let my feet soak for 10 minutes before applying a satin smoothie to exfoliate my feet.
7. After drying my feet, I finished off my foot spa by applying first some aloe vera moisturizer, and then, my Night Emollient cream. Lastly, my feet found comfort in my nifty spa socks
8. Now to polish my nails for the week. I opted for Merino Cool by Essie because I just not quite sure what my work wardrobe will be for the week. A little cool, neutral cool for the office place.


As it is often said, “You have to take some time to take care of yourself, if you expect to be to full take care of others.” Well here’s to starting a crazy week.

What are some things you do to pamper and treat yourself at-home?

How to Eat a Cupcake | Meg Donahue

Eat Cupcake


Gain a pound with every page! I mean really… the cucpakes described in this book will leave you wanting the real thing. Aside for that, the story of two friends who grew up together, fell apart, to only come back together and reconcile is one most girl (woman) may be able to relate to. Donahue shows us that despite what differences may have caused us to unfriend that one bestie, no one can or will replace that person–they know so much about you without you having to saying anything. But in the meantime, it is a good light read that will take you through the discovery of a secrets and building a business venture. So, why not indulge in a sweet or two while you peruse the pages of this cupcakery.

DIY Union Jack Trunk


Who knew unpacking could be complicated?!?! Well at least for me it has been. I’m one of those people that likes to put things in their “rightful” place the first time, rather than continuously shuffling things from one place to another until it’s finally right.

I’d been trying to figure out what to do with my trunk from college because you can’t just throw good storage items away. I came across this fabulous DIY Union Jack Trunk which inspired me to paint the Brit flag on mine. And seeing that I love most things British, THIS WAS THE PERFECT IDEA!

Materials Used:
1. A trunk (I’d had mine since college).
2. A quart of paint & primer (I used Behr’s Latex , rather than a separate primer and paint  as Meredith did).
3. A tester sized of a colored paint (I used
4. A quart of another colored paint (I used
5. measuring tape
6. Painter’s tape size 1.88″
7. Painters tape size .94″
8. Scissors
9. A fine artist’s paint brush
10. A wider paint brush

Here’s some of my photos from the painting process. For step-by-step instructions visit Meredith and Gwyneth, the New Yorkie. She did a great job providing detailed instructions.

My trunk before I got started. I did clean the surfaces with warm soapy water and let it dried…

Supplies used…

I primed all sides…
Primed face

even the bottom…
Primed bottom

Now the taping for the design began…
First taped

Then I pulled the inner cross-shaped taping up, along with the center square…
Border taped

I wanted to be sure to carry the Union Jack stripe down the sides, so I taped that off as well…
Sides taped

This was the more challenging part. Creating the diagonal strips in the corners. (Definitely be sure to follow Meredith’s instructions here…
Final taped

As you can see, there were some touch-ups I needed to do…

When it was dried the next morning, I was eager to put it in it’s “rightful place” at the foot of my bed before heading to work. It’s serving as a seating bench…
Dried and finish
Dried and finish2

Stay tune for what’s to come on the inside of my DIY Union Jack Trunk!

Does this inspire you to start a project of your own? If so, what are you planning?

Painting Playlist:
Corrine Bailey Rae’s The Sea (album)
Lina’s Inner Beauty Movement (album)
Esperanza Spalding’s Chamber Music (album)

Summer Rental | Mary Kay Andrews

Summer Rental

First I have to ask myself, “Why is this first book I read by Mary Kay Andrews?” Her Summer Rental was light, easy, one day read. Three best friends, since childhood, experience a variety of events all in one month from romance to detective duty, problem solver to friend comforter. What more could you ask for? These middle age women find themselves questioning the choices they’ve made in their lives and what, if anything, they can do to give new meaning and direction to their future. Sand, secrecy, and summer romance awaits you in this page turner.

The Sugar Queen | Sarah Addison Allen

sugar Queen

I was hesitant to read this book after skimming through other’s reviews, and even the inside flap. BUT I did! The Sugar Queen is a story of a young woman learning to embrace who she is meant to be and explore the life that is waiting for her just outside her sugary treat filled closet and romance novels. This young woman, Josie, is approached by a sassy mouthed, tough loved fairy who throws some gumption under her to create the life Josie has dreamed of and wanted for a long time. A tale of growing up and spreading your wings, but also filled with a couple of mysteries to be solved along this unexpected journey.

The Three Year Mark


The day has come! After moving back in with my parents three years ago (July 2010), I have finally found a place of my own to re-spread my wings and soar. As I sit here typing this with a glass of wine nearby, I look around to see I have a lot decorate and personalize to make this place my home. I’ve cleaned out most of my boxes, but still have a few left to go through (as you can see in the above picture).

I’m on a mission to fall in love with life (simply living). I have a lot to be thankful for. These past three years have allowed me to realize what is important, and to live with what I have rather than what I “want, want, want.”

Anyways, enough with my rambling. I’ve had the desire to blog for a few years now, and with the encouragement of some great friends like Kate, the witty mastermind behind Kate O Lynch and Tasha, the informative fashionista heading Imperfect Concepts, I’m just stepping out and going for it.

So here—welcome to Enlightenments by Vee–a collection of my adventures since turning 30 (just last month), decorating my place to call home, and well…well… Just Life!!!

This time around, I’m “grounded” better and wiser. Hey! some people say “When you’re in your 20’s you’re still trying to find yourself. And that you don’t really begin to enjoy life until you reach 30.” So let’s see what happens…